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Ho'oponopono: The Healing Art of Forgiveness


All healing starts with love. As we love and forgive ourselves, we are are helping to heal the world. Whether you are someone who experiences post traumatic stress disorder or someone experiencing a chronic illness or cancer, Ho'oponopono may be a healing practice that can benefit your life. This is not to say that someone else is responsible for the illness that are experiencing. Ho'oponopono is about being empathetic, loving and setting yourself free from carrying a negative burden of emotions which no longer serve you. How much better do you feel when someone has the courage to apologize? How often does pride get in the way of admitting a fault and asking forgiveness.

Ho'oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice of forgiveness. There is a case study with Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, in which he healed an entire ward of mentally ill criminals at the Hawaii State Hospital without having done anything more than looking at their files and sending Ho'oponopono.

It is not necessary for the person whom you are sending Ho'oponopono to to be present. It is like a loving thought being sent energetically to them, just as a prayer would. It also has the ability to allow self forgiveness. It is not necessary for you to have someone else in mind that you feel you need to ask forgiveness, you can use Ho'oponopono as a self forgiveness practice.

Examples of self forgiveness may include: 

  • Giving yourself permission to love yourself more
  • Letting go of criticism/judgement
  • Letting go of disappointment
  • Forgiveness of addictive behaviors
  • Forgiveness of inflicting harm or pain onto others
  • Allowing better self care: hygienically, nutritionally, financially, etc.
  • Forgiveness being unable to cope for so long that things seem to have deteriorated more than you feel comfortable with.


Examples of sending Ho'oponopono to others may include:

  • People you may have harmed either directly or indirectly
  • People whom you feel that you have disappointed
  • People whom you have neglected
  • People whom you have pushed away and that love you
  • People whom have inflicted harm onto you. 
This last example "people whom have inflicted harm onto you" may seem out of place. 'Why do I need to say sorry and ask forgiveness of someone who has harmed me?!'  That's what you're thinking right? 
There are some situations where you may feel it is appropriate and will bring more healing to ask someone who has harmed you for forgiveness (with Ho'oponopono):
  • There may have been a situation involving you and others which was overall unhealthy and unloving. 
  • If you are able to see how the role you played contributed to the situation then sending the other person ho'oponopono may be right for you. 
  • If you are able to feel empathy for the person who inflicted pain upon you, then this may be right for you. 
In no way does this give permission for someone to hurt you or for you to inflict harm onto someone else. This is not meant to have you return to an unhealthy situation. This is to allow you to open your heart, see imperfection is inevitable and allow you to move forward with your life. People make mistakes. People hurt. 
Saying the words "I'm sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you." is liberating and empowering. Own your mistakes, ask for forgiveness and then allow yourself to move forward with your life. Raise the bar and always strive to achieve better. 
Namaste :) 
Laura Wilkinson
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